Explaining the news to our kids: How to make sense of the nonsensical
This post originally appeared on Common Sense Media.
Shootings, terrorist attacks, natural disasters, end-of-the-world predictions � even political
coverage of current events � can be upsetting news for adults, not to mention kids.
In our 24/7 news world, it�s become nearly impossible to shield kids from distressing
current events.
According to Common Sense Media�s report, News and America�s Kids: How Young People
Perceive and Are Impacted by the News, kids get their news from family, friends, teachers,
and of course the internet.
Kids like to check their social media for shareable videos, posts, blogs, feeds, and
alerts.
But the news can stress them out.
Since much of this content comes from sites that are designed for adult audiences, what
your kids see, hear, or read might not always be age-appropriate.
Making things even more challenging is the fact that many kids are getting this information
directly on their phones and laptops.
Often parents aren�t around to immediately help their kids make sense of horrendous situations.
The bottom line is that young kids simply don�t have the ability to understand news
events in context, much less know whether or not a source of information is credible.
And though older teens are better able to understand current events, even they face
challenges when it comes to sifting fact from opinion � or misinformation.
No matter how old your kids are, threatening or upsetting news can affect them emotionally.
Many can feel worried, frightened, angry, or even guilty.
And these anxious feelings can last long after the news event is over.
So what can you do as a parent to help your kids deal with all this information?
TIPS FOR ALL KIDS Consider your own reactions.
Your kids will look to the way you handle the news to determine their own approach.
If you stay calm and rational, they will, too.
Take action.
Depending on the issue and kids� ages, families can find ways to help those affected by the
news.
Kids can write postcards to politicians expressing their opinions; families can attend meetings
or protests; kids can help assemble care packages or donate a portion of their allowance to
a rescue/humanitarian effort.
Check out websites that help kids do good.
TIPS FOR KIDS UNDER 7 Keep the news away.
Turn off the TV and radio news at the top of the hour and half hour.
Read the newspaper out of range of young eyes that can be frightened by the pictures (kids
may respond strongly to pictures of other kids in jeopardy).
Preschool kids don�t need to see or hear about something that will only scare them
silly, especially because they can easily confuse facts with fantasies or fears.
Stress that your family is safe.
At this age, kids are most concerned with your safety and separation from you.
Try not to minimize or discount their concerns and fears, but reassure them by explaining
all the protective measures that exist to keep them safe.
If the news event happened far away, you can use the distance to reassure kids.
For kids who live in areas where crime and violence is a very real threat, any news account
of violence may trigger extra fear.
If that happens, share a few age-appropriate tips for staying and feeling safe (being with
an adult, keeping away from any police activity).
Be together.
Though it�s important to listen and not belittle their fears, distraction and physical
comfort can go a long way.
Snuggling up and watching something cheery or doing something fun together may be more
effective than logical explanations about probabilities.
TIPS FOR KIDS 8�12 Carefully consider your child�s maturity
and temperament.
Many kids can handle a discussion of threatening events, but if your kids tend toward the sensitive
side, be sure to keep them away from the TV news; repetitive images and stories can make
dangers appear greater, more prevalent, and closer to home.
Be available for questions and conversation.
At this age, many kids will see the morality of events in stark black-and-white terms and
are in the process of developing their moral beliefs.
You may have to explain the basics of prejudice, bias, and civil and religious strife.
But be careful about making generalizations, since kids will take what you say to the bank.
This is a good time to ask them what they know, since they�ll probably have gotten
their information from friends, and you may have to correct facts.
Talk about � and filter � news coverage.
You might explain that even news programs compete for viewers, which sometimes affects
content decisions.
If you let your kids use the Internet, go online with them.
Some of the pictures posted are simply grisly.
Monitor where your kids are going, and set your URLs to open to non-news-based portals.
TIPS FOR TEENS Check in.
Since, in many instances, teens will have absorbed the news independently of you, talking
with them can offer great insights into their developing politics and their senses of justice
and morality.
It will also help you get a sense of what they already know or have learned about the
situation from their own social networks.
It will also give you the opportunity to throw your own insights into the mix (just don�t
dismiss theirs, since that will shut down the conversation immediately).
Let teens express themselves.
Many teens will feel passionately about events and may even personalize them if someone they
know has been directly affected.
They�ll also probably be aware that their own lives could be affected by violence.
Try to address their concerns without dismissing or minimizing them.
If you disagree with media portrayals, explain why so your teens can separate the mediums
through which they absorb news from the messages conveyed.
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