Waching daily May 28 2018

I will explain the whole process before a Turkish wedding.

Of course I will also talk about weddings, but later. All in due course.

In fact, the very first thing should be...finding a partner.

And how can a partner be found in Turkey?

As best you can, just like anywhere else in the world.

Typical ways, right? Among friends, at University, at work...

I will have to differentiate between what happens in the more traditional areas and the modern ones.

It doesn't have to be the same.

For example, the bridegroom's family might search for a candidate for bride, in the countryside.

Some women from the bridegroom's family could be "selected" for this "mission"

Then, they will visit those families with daughters who are also planning to get married.

After meeting every girl, they decide which one could fit.

When the girl and her family are told about it, they have to decide if they also accept the guy.

Either way, once the decision to get married is taken....

...The "protocol" before the wedding starts.

Let's not forget that I'm generalizing. Every couple is going to do whatever is more suitable for them.

Not everybody does what I'm going to explain.

In general, they prefer to have the blessing of their families to marry.

The bridegroom will have to ask for the girl's hand to her family.

In other circumstances, the bridegroom's family might visit the girl's family in order to convince them if she has refused to marry.

While her hand is being asked, the girl will prepare Turkish coffee for everybody.

I bet you know what happens with the coffee if you have watched my video about Turkish coffee.

If you haven't watched it for some reason...go and watch it.

Let's just say it's a kind of "test" the bridegroom should pass.

I'm not saying more.

After this, the marriage agreement takes place.

Both families talk about the conditions of the wedding.

Sweets are shared and the couple may kiss the older people's hands.

I repeat this depends on what every couple wants.

They may or may not follow this process.

Finally, the engagement ceremony arrives.

There are a lot of different ways to celebrate an engagement.

There can be expensive ceremonies with live music, food, dance ...

(Similar to a wedding celebration)

But there can also be traditional ceremonies in the bride's house.

Traditionally, the bridegroom's family is supposed to bear the expenses...but as I have told you, it depends on the families.

A piece/s of jewelry (called takı) can be given as a present to the bride.

The future mother-in-law and the rest of the bridegroom's family may have chosen the dress the bride will wear.

Later, the rings are exchanged.

They are usually tied by a red ribbon,

Which will be cut by someone close to couple.

There is not a predetermined time from the engagement ceremony to the wedding ceremony.

It depends on every couple's will.

I forgot to say that tradition states that older siblings should marry before the younger ones.

"Technically" a younger sibling should not marry before the older one...They should wait.

And you have to wait too if you want to know how Turkish weddings are.

(I will explain it in a coming video)

You could say we are in an engagement period before the wedding time.

Let's see what happens.

Well, no. I take it back. You must remain faithful to me so you watch me in the next video.